I'm hoping someone has similar issues/feedback. I have a female rescue BC mix we have had sicne she was a puppy, she is now 5. About two years ago we added a new rescue dog, a male german shorthair pointer, to the mix. We should have known she didn't like him at the shelter when we took them for a meet and greet because all she did was bark, and she was never a barker before. So here we are two years later, and I would have thought she would have adjusted. She tolerates him...She is not overtly aggressive, she does not guard or hoard food. Matter of fact she is careful to only eat half the bowl full and leave the rest for him. However, if she is on the sofa and he gets up next to her, she immediately gets down. She will not lay with him, or groom him, or allow him to groom her. If he sniffs in her direction she growls at him. They also have what we call "bark fest" where one of them will start barking and then the other will return the favor and then it takes an act of god (or husband - aka leader of the pack)to shut them up. They wrestle with each other, and it sounds vicious, but they never hurt each other.
Since he has come into the house, she has become my lap dog. All 40 pounds of her curls up on my lap, and yet my husband is clearly her leader and both dogs don't listen to my commands. That is a whole other topic. lol
After two years I would have thought she would have warmed to him. Is it possible she just never will, and is there anything I can do to foster an environement where she softens to him?